Maybe it's the times we're in; or the stage of life or maybe there are alot of people in need ... whatever the reason, alot of my conversations in the past few days have been about helping the ones we love, how much help is enough and at what point does help actually become enabling.help ...
1. to give or provide what is necessary to accomplish a task or satisfy
a need; contribute strength or means to; render assistance to; aid; assist.
2. to save; rescue;
3. to make easier or less difficult; contribute to; facilitate.
Sometimes it's the choices we make or sometimes life imposes situations or events on us that are beyond our control. And we just need a little (or alot of) help - a shoulder to lean on, financial assistance, advice - to get back on track.
Without a doubt families should help one another in times of need, in a crisis or to get over a hump. The goal should be to help them through troubled times so they can get on with the business of living their lives. But there is a fine line between aiding and enabling -- when we have to resist the urge to control and live their lives for them instead of helping and then letting go. Helping - not hindering. And sometimes the best help is none at all ...
I have been learning this lesson as a mother, daughter, sister and wife ... and even as a friend.
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